Background/Experience that you think is beneficial to Doula work: I know how it feels to have a birth that didn't go to plan. I had an emergency Cesarean, followed by a prolonged hospital stay (due to my own failing health) in which I endured 6 weeks without my baby boy. When I came home I faced the reality of being a single parent, who was still weak from the complications of childbirth, with very little and often times no help. I know what it feels like to not have the great birth and postpartum experience every mother may think she will have or deserve. Because of this, I will always work hard to ensure fewer mothers will experience that type of helplessness.
What led you to become a Doula?: To be honest, the idea came to me in an unconventional way and it prompted me to do research. Along the way, I learned more about birth work and what it meant to be a Doula. I fell in love. My own experiences encourage me to give what I didn't have, true support. Whether it's your 1st child or your 3rd, bringing home a new life is an experience I believe everyone should be able to love and enjoy.
What are some positive comments made about you by other people?:
“The type of love and support you have given me is on a level of a 30-year friendship.”
“I really feel like you have taken great care of me, even though you made me hurt myself from laughter.”
“I appreciate you making sure my son is taken care of because I don’t know what I would have done if I were by myself.”
What are your favorite pregnancy/parenting resources?: I really don't have a "Holy Grail" that I go by. I like personal experiences complimented with research from trusted sources (preferably medically backed). Although there are a plethora of resources available, I would still encourage anyone to do what feels natural. You may not do it the EXACT same way the book or article describes, but at least you gained additional knowledge to help guide you into your own rhythm.
What thoughts come to mind when you see a pregnant woman or brand new mom?: My immediate thought is "Aaaaaww, a new baby, how exciting!" Then my thoughts quickly move to wondering if she has all of the things she needs. What are the things she wants? What is her support like at home? I wonder how she feels because when I was that far along I felt like...
What is the best gift you can give a new mom (as a Doula)?: I feel the best gift I can give a new mom as a birth worker is a space where she knows its okay to not know. I will be there to support her while she is learning her child and learning how to re-enter into society as the new person she has become. I can give that mom a sense of comfort knowing that someone is there for the best interest of her, her baby, and her family without trying to insert my own agendas or family drama.
What is your favorite TV show or movie?: The Walking Dead and Insecure are my favorite TV shows...currently. Titles subject to change.
What is your favorite place to vacation?: I feel I haven't been enough places in the world to have a favorite just yet; however, what I do know is that my favorite place will have warm weather, sandy beaches, and blue waters.
What is your favorite food?: My favorite meal is Salmon with asparagus and wild rice. Yummmmm
What is your favorite way to spend a day off?: Some days I enjoy the simplicity of no plans. It's nice to just sit back and chill with my family and flow with whatever bright idea someone may have. It may be a trip to the movies, a drive down to grandma's house, or packing up and driving to Six Flags, if permitted.
Who lives in your house?: My husband, 2 sons, 2 dogs, and 1 cat.