Background/Experience that you think is beneficial to Doula work: As a mother of three and having had very different births and postpartum experiences, I can identify with new mothers and what emotions they may be experiencing as they transition into their new roles. Additionally, I have worked for years in a counselor role, so I have experience supporting people, meeting them where they're at and helping them reach their goals.
What led you to become a Doula?: As educated and informed as I was about all the technical aspects of labor, delivery, and the postpartum period, I was sorely unprepared for the true, raw emotions and challenges that come with having a newborn. After having my own children, I became passionate about reaching out to new mothers to let them know they're not alone in what they're experiencing.
What are some positive comments made about you by other people?:
I am often told that I am easy to be around and talk to and that I make people feel at ease in my presence. In fact, people often tell me when we first meet that they feel as though they have met me before.
What are your favorite pregnancy/parenting resources?: While I read endless books and websites while pregnant and as a new mother and certainly pulled valuable information from all of them, I have personally found that the most useful resource to me is other parents: family and friends but also parenting or mothers groups. First-hand experience is invaluable, and we owe it to each other to share our knowledge and experience.
What thoughts come to mind when you see a pregnant woman or brand new mom?: I often find myself holding back tears when going to visit a friend who has just had a baby. There's something so powerful and raw about the process of becoming a mother, whether as a first, second, third-time (or beyond!) mother. Bringing another human into the world and then growing together as a family is a magical, life-altering event, and we are so lucky to have that experience. While I may give a sympathetic glance to a pregnant mom whom I suspect is dealing with all the less than pleasant challenges that come with being pregnant, I am always eager to ask how she's feeling and when she's due; I always congratulate her and welcome her to the wonderful roller coaster ride that is becoming a mother.
What is the best gift you can give a new mom (as a Doula)?: The best gift I can give, as a birth worker, to a new mom is nonjudgmental and genuine care and support. While I have a toolbox full of trips and tricks that can help her with her new baby, letting my compassion and empathy for what she's experiencing guide me in supporting her is most valuable.
What is your favorite TV show or movie?: The Princess Bride (it's a classic!)
What is your favorite place to vacation?: The mountains or a lake...anywhere calm and peaceful.
What is your favorite food?: Chocolate
What is your favorite way to spend a day off?: I believe I am a better mother, spouse, and person overall when I find that delicate balance between self-care and giving the best of myself to my family, so I make a point to save a little time for myself every day by exercising or meditating, and then the rest of me and the best of me goes to my husband and children. Beyond that little piece of time for myself, my favorite way to spend a day off is by staying at home. With the hustle and bustle of life with work, kids and various activities, our most precious moments are the ones at home building blanket forts, teaching the kids how to garden, or sledding in the snow: the simple things.
Who lives in your house?: I live with my husband, two sons and daughter, along with our dog and seven chickens. Life can be a bit chaotic and crazy, but we wouldn't want it any other way!