Why We Call Our Clients “Rock Stars”

Posted on: October 23, 2015 | Become a Doula, Doula, Doula Inspiration, Doula Training, Labor & Birth

Let’s start with what we don’t mean!

We don’t mean that while you were birthing your baby, you wore black spandex with thigh-high boots, a fringed black leather vest and studded dog collar. We also don’t mean that during the pushing phase you trashed a hotel room and we certainly don’t mean that when you brought your baby to your breast to suckle, you were double fisting Jack and Cokes!

When we think Rock Star, we think Steven Tyler, Lenny Kravitz, Pink, Eddie Vedder, Bon Jovi, Axl Rose, Ozzy Osbourne, etc.

We don’t think… birthing woman.

Well, maybe you don’t, but I do.

Let me tell you why.

– Both are passionate

Yes, passionate. One of the things that brings a musician or birthing woman to “Rock Star status”, is the passion that drips from their pores when they do what they love.

Whether it is the twitch of the guitarist’s mouth during a solo or the way in which the vocalist’s hands and body seem to wrap around the mic, the passion is abundantly obvious.

The same passion reveals itself to me as a doula when I see a birthing woman dig deeper than ever before in her life.

Whether she is making a really difficult decision about her care or the care of her baby, or she is pushing past the burning as she commits to birthing her child, or when a tear is dripping from her eye as she lays in the operating room birthing her baby, the passion is abundant. That makes her a Rock Star!

– Both are Unapologetic

They make no apologies for their authenticity.

The life of a Rock Star is not open for debate. I mean you can debate it if you like, but it will have no impact on the Rock Star them selves. They make no apologies.

The birthing woman that we refer to as a Rock Star, shares this unapologetic attitude. She makes decisions that are right for her, her partner and her baby. She takes into account what matters to her and not others. She knows that at the end of the day, it is her own eyes she will look into and because of that, she is true to herself. She is a Rock Star!

– It is witnessed and it inspires

The #1 thing that makes someone a Rock Star is the inspiration they bring to others when they do what they do.

When I am front row at a Metallica show or bearing witness to a woman giving birth, I am overwhelmed by the spirit of what I witness.

It is powerful.

It is electric.

It is a force that embeds itself deep within my soul and it never leaves me.

It becomes part of me. That is why I call you a Rock Star!

And lastly,

– Sometimes they need drugs to get them through it

Many would argue that a Rock Star who has engaged the support of alcohol or narcotics, gives a better performance than one who doesn’t. The truth is, what feels best to the Rock Star, also conveys to the audience.

For many birthing women the support of an epidural or other medication enhances her birth experience. To witness a confident and comfortable woman completely relaxed and allowing her baby to pass through her body and be born is absolutely incredible.

While the birthing woman hopefully isn’t concerned with the experience of those bearing witness, a true Rock Star, isn’t either.